8. Ask about those little blue pills

The same meds that put your partner in the mood may also give your sex drive a lift. Pills like Viagra increase blood flow to the genital area—something women need for arousal just as much as men do. Though the FDA hasn't approved the pill for women, doctors can prescribe it off-label. Ask your healthcare provider if these meds might help you too.

So if your sex drive stinks because your whoopee lacks whoop or your hormones are running amok, a physical boost may reignite interest, says Laura Berman, Ph.D., founder of the Berman Center. However, if you're slumped because you hate your thighs, resent your husband, or are simply more overworked than worked up, no pill will put you in the mood. It may just give you another headache—a common side effect. Your best bet is to work through those issues.