‘‘One day I decided the time had come to do something about it. I made appointments with my gynaecologist and a psychiatrist. I had my hormone levels, bone density and thyroid function tested, and I had a mammogram. The psychiatrist put me on antidepressants and antianxiety medication.

‘‘Today I feel in control. I understand what’s going on in my body. I was able to celebrate my 50th birthday in the knowledge that hot flushes and all the other symptoms were temporary. I still have a lifetime ahead of me. I’ve come to terms with the way my body’s changing and I’m looking forward to the day I can say I’m over perimenopause, I’ve conquered menopause and I’ve come out the other side a happier and wiser person – someone who’s made peace with the seasons of her body and soul.’’

As a woman and a psychologist I can give you these tips from my experience of this transition:

• Tell your spouse or life partner about your symptoms. It’s important for him to be informed about your physical changes and what you’re going through emotionally. Be honest.
  
• Talk to your kids. They also need to understand why you’re having mood swings. .
  
• See a gynaecologist and empower yourself with information about your condition. Ask for a complete explanation of menopause. .
  
• See a psychologist who can help you change and adapt. .
  
• See a psychiatrist if depression and anxiety get worse.
  
• Try to exercise every day, even if it’s just walking for a kilometre to clear your head.
  
• Accept you’re going through a confusing time but that it’ll pass. Talk to a friend who’s going through the same thing and support each other.
  
• Focus on the positive side: you’re entering a new and challenging phase of your life. You’ll be able to learn new skills, indulge in new hobbies, possibly start a new career and do things you’ve never had the opportunity to do.